Will you choose Love or Happiness, In A Relationship?
When a relationship becomes more important than love and love becomes a bigger priority than happiness, get ready to be miserable. Firstly, let’s talk about how two individuals get into a relationship? When two people are happy in their lives, their respective happiness attracts each other and that’s how they end up being in a relationship-which in turn culminates into love and that love becomes the very basis of the relationship. Now, the relationship has become so important to you that you have forgotten that love has taken a backseat. When you are in love, you want to give, show your best and make sure that you are the reason your partner is feeling loved. The moment you get into a relationship, the equation changes and gives rise to expectations.
Let’s take the example of marriage. Until two people get married, i.e during the courtship period, you try to look your best for each other, share the best experiences, you don’t mind waiting for each other, sometimes even for hours and are always careful about what you say to each other. The day your love turns into a relationship, suddenly the equation changes, there are unsaid rules which are laid out and you automatically start expecting from your partner. That’s when you start telling them the list of do’s and don’ts, what you don’t like about them and how you would like them to change.
Now, relationship has become more important to you than love. Love stands for freedom, whereas relationship is a bonding. If you want to experience or enjoy love, there should not be any bonding. Even if you are bonded into a relationship, you should be mature enough to understand that there has to be freedom, which comes only from love. Relationship need not be only a romantic one, it can be any two people coming together, whether it is friendship or partnership.
Remember that love doesn’t guarantee you happiness. In fact, it’s the other way round. If you ask me how to prioritize your life, then I will ask you to first choose happiness. Only if you are happy, you will be able to make the other person happy. But the problem arises the moment you tell your partner, “I don’t want happiness, I want you.” That’s how a lot of people sacrifice love for the sake of a relationship.
Hence, the bottom line is when you want love more than happiness, it will only guarantee you pain. In the end, you need to make a matured choice about what you want. And if there is happiness, love will naturally follow.